How do i become less intimidating to guys
n my article Why Nice Guys Are All Too Intimidated By Beautiful Women a great question was asked… That is, what can a beautiful women actually do about her (accidental) intimidation on a nice guy. If I were to ask you to coddle him you’ll only end up making it worse. She’s only being nice because she wants to just “be friends” or wants something from us and is of course used to getting her way.” Nothing is more hurtful than when a guy externalizes his internal negative assumptions made about beautiful women. Don’t assume you know HIM before you get to know HIM: “Let’s be friends.” “Take me out, buy me nice things, kiss my ass a little and I promise I’ll leave you hanging for some jerk IF and only IF you for once and for all admit you have a dark side Mister Bad Boy.”She can also have the opposite affect by turning our outward negativity inwards…
Assuming you’re a nice woman and not doing it on purpose of course. He’ll eventually feel threatened, emasculated, and become less than a man you would want. If I were to ask you to become less intimidating, who knows, maybe dress down, ugly yourself up 🙂 OR worse yet act as if you’re dumber than him just to make him self “feel” better. Be proactive in the beginning and allow him to take the lead from there: Nothing scares a nice guy more than a woman who seems a little uptight or hides herself because she’s worried the dumb ass in the corner will get the wrong picture. It pisses me off when I hear guys talk this way and I’m positive you’re a little tired of it too. “She’s not talking to us, she must not be interested or even notice we exist. I bet she’s not attracted to us, must be too ugly for her.” Take a measured interest and a passion to connect with guys who always seem to be the male equivalent of a wall flower.
Think about it: how many times have you heard of or even seen first-hand a guy who’s basically looking for someone like his own mother. Think of what makes a good mother and how that would translate to a potential partner. She doesn’t shrink under stress because she can’t afford to.On the one hand, it feels kind of weird to even say I’m looking for a successful woman.Men do seem to be forthcoming about some things they’re looking for (body type, for one), but less so about others.As a buddy of mine puts it: “I don’t want her to need me, but I do want her to rely on me, as I want to be able to rely on her.”There’s something about a woman who is doing some cool things with her own life that makes me want to get my own act together.
Not because anybody is playing savior to anybody else, but because of the opposite: I know that in a healthy relationship there’s a sense of equality—better yet, a sense of complementarity.The truth is, a lot of the things you do know about what guys are looking for actually suggest more of the strong and independent type than frail and needy.