Gay male dating websites
“It’s a cliched line but how much do we ever know about someone who we meet in a bar and go home with? The few times I have met people just for sex on here, I’ve asked to go for a drink or a coffee first, just to, you know, dip a toe in the water. I have friends where someone comes across the street, they meet them, then walk off back to their flat.That’s how instant it can be, although that’s not for me.“It does take away that idea of having to be out, on the scene, of going to a specific gay place and the worry that if you’re not in a specific gay place – you wouldn’t come on to anybody in a straight pub because you don’t know if they will be homophobic and punch you in the face.“In a way Grindr is more about yourself than anything.“Brenda is marketed to this specific niche – the female Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning, Inter Sex and Asexual (LGBTQIA) community, renowned for being a small world.Meaning half of the women you come across, especially if you live in a city like London, Brighton or Manchester, are ones you’ve already seen out and about.Ten years ago dating websites were considered a bit sad and a bit pathetic and you only went on there if you couldn’t find a boyfriend, but now all my female friends and male straight friends, 90 per cent are on [the sites].” “Tinder is like going up to a man in a bar but eliminating most of the risk factors,” says Moira Scarlett, who works in the film industry.
“You’ve only got these little details to go on so the downside is… It becomes I’m Pat, I’m 5’11, I’ve got dark hair and I might say, you know, toned body or something, and that becomes me.
“I think Grindr is only the sum of its users – it is not a reflection of the gay community or modern-day gay dating because people who use Grindr use it for a specific reason – they are mostly young, free and single, and they download it up for hook-ups, sex, to assuage an urge we all feel and can recognise whether you’re gay or straight, male or female, 18 or 80.