Funnel theory of dating
The book suggests trying the following experiment: “Pour a tall glass of orange juice, and drink half of it. The girls love flipping through the “factoid”-type layouts and I have used several ideas as object lessons in classes and firesides with the youth.I’ve made an Amazon page with links to both these books, and other things that I love will be added as I come across them.means caution, use care to evaluate the choice made and the results.It is also a bright color that I hope will invite clients to openly and critically evaluate their choices and see evaluation as a source of power and control.My Open Funnel Model with the accompanying stages – Pause, Consider, Choose, Evaluate, Repeat – comprises the steps I think are needed for making a variety of life decisions.I find it particularly useful for those making job-related choices.Tomorrow I am teaching the YW Manual 3 Lesson 35 lesson. Isn’t it interesting that if we do this in the wrong order, something sweet can be bitter? Physical intimacy is similar to orange juice and mouthwash.
I realize that clients may not pass through the stages in a linear fashion, still this model is helpful as a way to identify which stage a client may be in and which tools and questions are useful at that stage.
The client is not limited to input from the top of the funnel during the Pause stage; valuable information may come to the client during the Choose stage that impacts the client’s choice or during the Evaluate stage which leads the client to then Repeat the process.
Hence the open system – a system which “continuously interacts with its environment or surroundings.” Wikipedia-Open System While the client likely will start in the Pause stage the client is free to skip stages.
When the itch comes to make a change we sometimes rush to scratch the itch, taking whatever escape route presents itself. While I certainly understand the itch – I’ve had it a time or two – I advocate taking more structured, informed, thoughtful approach to making changes.
This informed approach is definitely influenced by my experience as a librarian and information professional and my own need to have adequate information to make informed decisions.Thus Repeat follows Evaluate to encourage and support clients to feel free to make changes based on what is learned during evaluation.