Double your dating cliff notes
Alternatively, his invitation may be so sexually explicit that it can easily be dismissed as a meaningless drunken joke if it backfires.
He's not required to exhibit any emotions; he avoids entangling himself too soon in anything that could possibly be described as a relationship; he doesn't have to do or say anything 'soppy', so he maintains his masculine dignity; and he avoids the humiliation of a verbal rejection.
The notion that the English don't have much sex, or have a laughably low sex-drive, is widely accepted as fact — particularly abroad.
According to the popular stereotype, we are passionless, reserved and often sexually naïve.
Among the English, you're more likely to hear exchanges of mock-insults.
'Banter', we call it, and it's our main method of flirting.
Indeed, during the course of my research, I was continually struck by the difficulty of having any sort of sensible conversation about sex.
The mere mention of the word seemed to trigger a quip, or a witticism or a crude nudge-nudge remark. We don't, not really: it's just that humour is our standard way of dealing with anything that makes us feel uncomfortable or embarrassed.
In which case, chat-up lines such as 'Er, fancy a s***? English males are particularly squeamish about the idea of dating.In other parts of the world, sex may be regarded as a sin, an art form, a healthy leisure activity, a commodity, a political issue or a problem requiring years of therapy. In a study I did on flirting among the English, only one per cent of respondents — aged 18 to 40 — said that they 'never flirted', and over a third had flirted with someone 'today' or 'within the past week'.So, the English are genetically programmed to flirt. That is the question that social anthropologist Kate Fox set out to answer in her book Watching The English. On Saturday, she explained why your choice of marmalade reveals your true social class.
Today, she decodes our unique behaviour in the bedroom.
Sometimes, however, we find it hard to read the signals accurately, and spend inordinate amounts of time discussing the possible meaning of some obscure hint or ambiguous gesture with our female friends.