10 tips for dating
) advice and stories, and in honor of my sisters and brothers fighting the good fight, here are my notes from the trenches. If it’s not, then it’s time to move on to something better. Stop inviting the Ghost of Christmas Past to dinner with you, nobody likes a third wheel.
This shouldn’t be difficult, it should be easy to be the best version of yourself around people with whom you spend time. There is a time and place for viewing the skeletons in your closet and unpacking your baggage. Your past has shaped who you are, it has shifted your paradigm and your perspective, but it is neither your present nor your future.
Having spent a good year getting reacquainted with myself and my charming set of idiosyncrasies, I recognized the occasion calling for me to stop avoiding male attention and to start practicing the art of social bullshitting again. If it comes let it come, if it stays let it stay, if it goes, well, let it go. If he responds intermittently to you, then yeah, you’re not the only girl in his contact list. Taken from the mouths of our wise elders, “Don’t make someone a priority who treats you like an option.” Seriously.
Be grateful for the opportunities provided, in whatever form they come.
The right person will come at the right time and for the right reasons. I have “rescued” a friend from a bad date, recently, and while wearing my “Spiritual Gangster” tank top. I personally have zero problem calling it when I see it (politely of course), but it’s taken me some solid practice to learn the art of the graceful exit.
Being overly responsive or attentive is a bad plan; the idea of “the chase” isn’t meant to be you cyberstalking and checking in every hour. Some things to remember: 1) take a cab if you can, use a ride sharing app if you really want to do it right, so you can “call” them slyly from under the table and then suddenly “voila!
I decided to write the ending to a chapter of my life, the beginning of the end, as it were. That being said, be ready to see them; stay open and choose your concessions carefully.
I wanted to start the next (possibly painful) adventure in the little journey of my life I like to call “my current reality.” As much as I didn’t want to go there again (or, let’s be honest, to don something other than yoga pants), it was time. There is a difference between a compromise and settling, a one. This means that if your messaging pattern goes from phone blowing up to you staring at it, nonstop, checking to make sure it’s working, you are pretty much done there, sweetheart.
Although I sometimes may come off as domineering, I really don't mean to be.When you get back, I'll sit and listen to the fun things that you did and probably tell you about some of the interesting parts of my day that took place while you were gone.As long as we have mutual trust and respect, I don't have a problem with you going out without me.It may be that I'm stressed and trying to juggle a lot at once, so I come off as standoffish, or I may think that I would bother you by sharing what I have on my plate at the time. I like to actually try and balance work, education, social life, that alone time, and an intimate relationship even if it becomes exceedingly difficult sometimes.
For any relationships, be it with an independent woman or not, communication really is the key for a healthy, operational, and lasting romance. I may get into a tiff with someone at work or log into my bank account to find that the numbers are incorrect. I have created a life so full of fun and friends and work and kids and personal fulfillment that finding time for the average guy was uh, well, not so reasonable—thus the ensuing “search” for Joe Squared commenced. Photo overshares to new acquaintances, by the way, come off as a marketing ploy.